Cyberly Fucked

imagesimagesimages-1images-2No, this isn’t about sex online, when you happily heave-ho through your computer screen.

It’s becoming versed in the cyber powers that be.

I’m on Facebook, Twitter, Amazon, Goodreads, Shebooks, Reddit, Pinerest and Tumblr. With the exception of re-posting a blog essay on the first two, the rest of the girls are virtually on their own.

The time required to man all these sites is mind-boggling. When does one have time to write when they’re so immersed in social media? Yet I know it can be done…have met masters at it, who man the helm like seasoned sailors.

I had someone ask how many blogs do I read?

Maybe 5 on a regular basis, 2 or 3 more occasionally. I just don’t have time to keep up with my bloggy brethren.

But that’s a poor excuse, I’m told, and not thinking of the advantages.

It would increase my visibility…get more followers and possibly sell more of those eBooks of mine, the latter of course pricking up my ears.

I ask myself, Susannah, are you just lazy? Can’t you attempt to try a little harder?

The mere idea, I won’t lie, exhausts me.

My friend Amy is a cyber wizard having anything scientific soaring through her veins. When she was a kid she built a robot from scratch and taught herself ventriloquism.

When I was a kid I rode a scooter and had an Easy Bake Oven.

It’s no wonder she’s a successful online business woman while I’m cyberly challenged, and still can’t cook.

Where am going with all this?

To the fridge to flip open a beer I bought earlier while I muse on this further.

I will say, self-promotion is an art. It’s right up there with selling anything, in this case it just happens to be you.

Preening for attention is a toughie for me. I know, but you’re a model…aren’t you accustomed to attention by now?

You would think.

I’ve always been the one who skulks in with a bag over her head hoping not to be seen en route to the bar.

I suppose when you think of it, it is the one advantage of a selling yourself online.

No one gets to see you…just the rumor and alleged myth.

Now there’s a possible selling point.



About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Thanks.
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24 Responses to Cyberly Fucked

  1. pmahaney says:

    I get it Susannah. Time is not what it is cracked up to be, who has it?


    • I know I could be reading more blogs, but I don’t have time to do everything. And I’d rather have people read me because they like what I write, not because I read them. Yes, I have fewer readers but I’ll just have to live with that.


      • pmahaney says:

        I myself think that is the way it should be. The night I found your blog I got a kick out of what I read. As for writing in my blog, I write because I want to and I hope it puts a smile someones face, Feedback is nice because it can motivate, but if I depend on that to keep me writing, I think I’m in trouble.


      • I think of blogging like the gym…hopefully it will build creative muscle to write something bigger…a novel perhaps.


  2. skinnyuz2b says:

    Susannah, I don’t know twittering, which isn’t all that unusual. But what my children and friends can’t believe is that I’ve never texted or had the desire to do so. I’ll keep you company in cyberly challenged line.


  3. I find it to be insanely hard to keep up with everything and I don’t know how people do it, especially between work, the gym, oh and life. The second it feels like work I’m out. We should form a CF group.


  4. You are far more socially networked than I am. I do Twitter and Facebook for my blog but I don’t even have a Pinterest page (my friends can’t believe that) and I don’t know what Reddit is. You are right that it takes too much time to do everything. My problem is that I don’t even know which will give the best exposure since I’m always behind the trend. As for reading blogs. I do read a lot but only the ones I like. My time is too limited. There are a handful that I read faithfully. I get something out of them. There are people who follow me and I have no idea why. I look at their blog and it’s about sci fi or recipes or prepubescent dating experiences. Marketing yourself is hard. Women (at least of my generation) are raised to not promote themselves.


    • Self-promotion certainly doesn’t come naturally, that’s for sure. I am on all those sites that mostly lie dormant. I Tweet on Mondays on #Mondayblogs. I have no idea if it helps, but I do it…only Mondays though. I have on Facebook but not much has happened on it. Half the time I forget to post there. I’m busy like you…writing, reading…it’s another job.


  5. pmahaney says:

    Hey Susannah … you did it! In reference to “Seen through your eyes” post.


  6. Elle Knowles says:

    Well, I almost missed it didn’t I? And you know why? Because I’ve been busy blogging! And I had to do some actual paying work this morning because as we all know – blogging doesn’t pay the bills! I won’t even pretend it does. I have blogged more in the last few weeks than I ever had and this is only because I got caught up in Blogging101. I was curious to know what it was all about and I’ve learned quite a lot. I can now at least surf around my site and not get lost! I also learned that you cannot follow everyone that follows you and if you do, you can’t always put them up on top. You have to pick and choose – a handful at the most – and be dedicated to them for they will know when you don’t show up and you don’t comment or like you are far too busy doing what you should be doing – writing your book! I have no idea how someone with 1000 plus followers keeps up because you know, you have to answer comments if nothing else. Blogging is an outlet for me because even though I am writing a book there are always other stories fighting to come out. So I blog those stories and hope someone will read and a light-bulb goes off – hey! She’s pretty good! πŸ™‚ You just keep on doing what you are doing Susannah, because I do believe that light bulb has gone off in plenty of your readers! πŸ˜‰ ~Elle


    • This is what I call a comment with pulp. I admire you taking on Blogging 101…it was gutsy of you. I think anything that gets you to write daily is a good thing. It’s been great rereading your essays. Reblogging yourself is a great idea. Leaves you with more time for your book but you also stay true to your readers.


  7. You are so right, Susannah. It’s a cruel paradox that writers today need to do a lot of self-promotion, yet doing self-promotion right on social media is the antithesis of writing, at least for anyone with a normal schedule. I used to do a lot more blogging back when I had more time, but even then, the amount of time I spent on my novels dropped quite a bit. There are only so many hours in the day, unfortunately.


  8. I love this, love as in all capital letters! One of the reasons I am DAF… don’t want to promote myself, but then I would love to have people follow me… I am so cyber-ly challenged I can’t figure out FB for blogs! On another topic, watching the weather channel and hoping your heat is working, that you are warm and safe and sound. Will be thinking of you as the storm hits. You are loved and appreciated. DAF


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