No Biting Or Hair Pulling

I was witness to an argument that left me filled with thought…a young couple duking it out at the entrance of Central Park.  I so wanted to say, please don’t go in disturbing the peace, but managed to muzzle myself.

“I fucken hate you,” she said, the tattoos on her arms coming to life. “I am sick, sick sick a’ you lyin then showin up ta lie s-more.”

Well, I thought, if that’s true I’d be sick of him too, but what got my attention more than the shrillness of her voice was his reaction.  He just stood there taking every verbal punch with dignified poise.  After she finally ran out of steam he said, “Are you done, cause I gots sump-in ta say.

As she plopped on a bench, I kept stretching as if I was about to do an Ironman so I wouldn’t miss anything.  Hey, I’m just a nosy blogger, what can I say?

“I gots ta work.  If we eva is gonna get married I need ta put some bucks away.  I ain’t lyin when I tell ya I’m at work.  They keep me late sometime cause the otha guy’s late and I need ta wait.  Why won’t you ba-lieve me ? I love you baby so much.”

Yes, me and my hamstrings were in tears listening to him plead, while she just sat there biting her French manicure I so wanted to caution her about since the adhesive they use is very toxic.

They finally made up, kissing like porn stars in the early morning light.

Made me think how lucky we are to find someone to love.  It’s not easy coexisting, and one needs to take care of what one loves, could just be a pair of shoes, or the lawn.  But the person you let into your life needs attention always.  I’m not wild  about the expression, relationships need work.  Work sounds joyless and uphill.  Unions require a soft touch, a gentle understanding and most of all the grace and gratitude for the other.

It’s why you see that husband sitting at a bar talking to an attractive girl who needs a little attention, and after two or three drinks are in the front seat of her Subaru fucking like bunnies who really only needed to be held.

I know what I’m talking about.  It takes a few years of solitude to put and see all the pieces clearly.

I sure hope that couple are still kissing.


About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Thanks.
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19 Responses to No Biting Or Hair Pulling

  1. micklively says:

    Can you have love without trust? If she doesn’t trust him, they are lost, whether they kiss or not.
    I’m pleased you resisted the temptation to intervene. 😉


  2. skinnyuz2b says:

    One of my honey’s sisters broke up with her fiancé for “neglecting her”. He was working two jobs to support them since she doesn’t like to work. That girl in the park sounds a lot like the sister. And she just might wind up alone like the sister if she doesn’t wise up. I hope the park guy finds a gal that appreciates his efforts.


    • Was just writing my friend Amy how Latinos know how to articulate in their special parlance. Jealousy is the terrible feeling. She clearly suffers putting that kid through hell and back. It was a relief to see their passion so intensely ignited. Love comes in all kinds of packaging.


  3. “Work” is the proper word. Relationships take, at least, effort. And it has to come from both sides. If one is doing most of it, it will die at some point (probably should). My problem seems to be that many women (I am sure men fit here too) do not wish to even attempt a relationship in which their every need is not going to be met. You know, I am disabled, can’t work a regular job, but I have lots of love and attention to give. Sorry, didn’t mean to start sounding off…just gets old after a while.


  4. There has to be an understanding between both people and that is brokered by love, trust and tolerance. Without those three, no relationship has a chance. It can get a little uncomfortable hearing people go at it in public, can’t it Susannah?


  5. Sounds like she’s been burned before and this new guy is paying the price. Love gets easier when you get older and realize the friendship part of the relationship is much more important.


  6. I bet you stretched enough for a couple days. A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do to get the whole story!


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