The Fat Factor

images So many people battle weight.  I see both women and men running in the park toting so much extra girth it encourages me to skip breakfast.

I have a good friend at least 80 pounds overweight with multiple health issues I’m certain, if he slimmed down, would disappear.

Blood pressure, cholesterol, back and knees all suffer when you’re packing too many pounds.

I’ve tried numerous times to influence my pal who has the means to do whatever it takes to lose weight, unlike most of us.  He can hire a cook, go to a spa or have his mouth soldered shut.

But like when you call AA for a friend or family member, the first thing they ask is, does he or she want to stop drinking?  This is your idea…well, when it’s theirs, call us back.

They know from experience if the person in question is not on board, you’re wasting everyone’s time, especially yours.

Addiction of any kind is a bitch.  I’ve been trying to give up coffee to help quell my Tinnitus failing miserably.  The more I try not to drink it, the more I seem to have.

To give up that pie and ice-cream at midnight after the side of beef for dinner isn’t so easy.

We eat, drink and caffeinate to fill what writer Anne Lamott calls, our Swiss cheesy holes.  Trouble is, they never stay filled having to refill them again and again.

I worry about my friend who gets heart palpitations and swollen ankles, migraines and blurry vision sometimes holding his back like Walter Brennen.

Wish I could help, but without him on board, will waste everyone’s time…his and mine.






About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Thanks.
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14 Responses to The Fat Factor

  1. skinnyuz2b says:

    Susannah, why does it seem that what we’re supposed to give up is the thing we want the most? My weakness is jelly candy – Swedish Fish, red licorice, etc. Up until fifteen years ago I was eating over a pound a day. Now I have one measly handful a day that is gone way too quickly.


    • I LOVE Swedish Fish, and one day found a crown missing so I’m not very Swedish these days. Yesterday for walking her dog, my neighbor baked me cookies. I at once, got rid of them knowing I’d eat the whole batch while trying to stay off sugar. It’s hard staying away from what you crave.


  2. micklively says:

    Maybe obesity is, first and foremost, a mental illness?
    How many psychologists does it take to change a light-bulb?
    Only one, but the light-bulb really has to want to change.


  3. It seems we all have a friend like that. Mine weighed close to 400 pounds. He has lost over 100 but no one really noticed but me. He’s very sensitive about his weight so I never talk about it. I told his wife that he looked like he lost weight and he looked good and she could tell him I said so if it won’t get him all agitated. On the other hand I have a friend who has had a gastric bypass and a lapband surgery. I don’t see her eat much (although you never know if someone is a closet eater). She has a lot of trouble keeping weight off and works on it all the time. She’s in her 60s and it gets old after a while. I am lucky. Everyone in my family is slim except my mother. We all take after my Dad and his family was all really thin.


  4. I love the honesty in this post. We can recognize having a problem, but if we don’t want to be part of the solution, nothing anyone else does can help us with our problem.


  5. It’s all about control and I have ZERO. If I try to give something up it is suddenly in abundance where ever I turn. Addiction of any kind is very personal, but unfortunately it has far reaching effects.


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