Diana, Princess of Wails

images-9 Today, August 31st, marks eighteen years since Lady Diana Francis Spencer died in Paris’s now famous Pont d’ Alma Tunnel, in a fatal, fiery car crash. images-8

Do you remember where you were that day?  I do.  I was at the 92nd Street Y at a yoga class with my then Israeli lover who said, “Who cares.  In my country it happens every day, all day.”  Needless to say, our relationship didn’t last too long after that.

Diana’s two boys are all grown up, and she’d be a 54 year-old proud grandmother still doing good works, I’m sure.

I’ve always had a great affinity towards her after learning of the many difficulties she endured, like bulimia and depression, brought on by a turbulent childhood never feeling  loved by her parents who drank and fought like two blue bloodied alley cats.  With the exception of the blue blood part, we had the same story.

At 20 she meets Prince Charles who wasn’t all that interested since he was pretty besotted with his now Missus, Camilla Parker Bowles, he at the time, couldn’t wed because she was too experienced, as the Royals put it if you’d been married and not past free.

Diana, on the other hand, if you discount her stormy inner life, was chaste and unsullied as a fresh snow.  The Queen, who met Diana first, urged Charles to take her as a bride.

So, for all the wrong reasons, in 1981, Diana and Charles were married while 750 million people sat glued to their television sets including yours truly. images-4 But unbeknownst to Diana, she was chosen only because she looked so perfect on paper.  The Spencers were an old, well-respected family, in theory at least, whose blood would blend nicely with the Windsor’s.

She’d be a good breeder alright, just a joyless one because the bloom was off the rose that never quite opened soon after her honeymoon.  Charles in so many words, merely cut a deal.

Like the rest of his family, Charles was cold and lacked the affection Diana desperately needed.  It wasn’t because he wasn’t capable, he was raised that way, to not show emotion.  And truth be told, he was more sensitive than either of his parents who would berate him if he let it show.

It’s so easy to ruin your kids, sure doesn’t take much.  And the sad part is, it doesn’t take much to rear them well either.  It’s the path parents take that decides the future of their offspring who, let’s remember, never asked to be brought into this world to begin with.

To quote Jacqueline Kennedy, “If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters.”

Diana and Charles were both extremely fucked up people, and rather than bonding  because of it, it tore them apart.  Diana’s constant nagging accusing him of still seeing Camilla, and according to one historian, he only started when Diana began having affairs of her own.

Another author claims, he never stopped seeing Camilla which might explain Diana’s alleged philandering.

But we, their audience, will never really know the truth behind those private palace doors, now will we?

I choose to look only at her good.   She was bighearted, compassionate to a fault and loved her sons.  5

Take it from me, when you’re that damaged by your childhood, it’s hard to meet everyone’s expectations, and like her husband, she too couldn’t just turn off her tears so her chilly in-laws would feel more comfortable.

Personally, I think Charles’s love for Diana grew after she died finally seeing her humanity.

Her sons, who she raised to be aware of the pain of others, are exceptional human beings.

How proud she’d be of William and Harry, and their father, who has taken loving care of them since her death. images-3His heart, rusted shut for so long,  finally opened for his sons, and Camilla, who he finally married in 2005.   PoW_biography-4

The Queen,  220px-Queen_Elizabeth_II_March_2015  in her 89th year, is still ruling strong.  Charles, who must realize, any minute he’ll be king, appears to take it in stride.

He’s come a long way since Diana left the planet on that fateful night.  I remember reading how moments before the crash, she said, she was frightened for the paparazzi on their motorbikes for fear they’d be hurt…the driver with a man on the back taking photos concerned her less than their safety.

But alas, with a drunken driver at the wheel and an irate boyfriend urging him to go even faster, her life was stolen at the age of 36.

Charles, along with Diana’s two sisters, against his mother’s wishes, flew to Paris to bring her back home. images-2

All of England mourned her because, as Tony Blair, the then prime minister said…she was the People’s Princess, images-5 because as she often said,

“I’m much closer to the people at the bottom than the people at the top.”

How’s that for a legacy. 220px-Lady-diana-101757_w1000_(cropped)

Recommended reading:

The Day Diana Died – Christopher Anderson…1999

The Queen and Di: The Untold Story – Ingrid Seward…2002

The Diana Chronicles – Tina Brown…2008


All pictures courtesy of Google Images

About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Amazon.com. Thanks.
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24 Responses to Diana, Princess of Wails

  1. You wrote a beautiful tribute. She was really a tragic figure in so many ways. My wife is a huge monarchy buff, so I’ve learned a lot about Diana through her. She’s told me about how they are treating Kate now much better in a lot of ways, hopefully not repeating some of the mistakes that happened with Diana.


  2. Her death was sad as her wedding day was jubilant. Our daughters woke up on that sad day and the news left them stunned. They admired her.


  3. skinnyuz2b says:

    Beautiful piece, Susannah. I think she was as popular in the US as in England. I, too, remember the shock when learning of her death.

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  5. Elle Knowles says:

    More reading material to add to my list, Susannah. I’ll never catch up. Your post leaves me yearning for more as usual. ~Elle

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  6. Beverly Giangiacomo says:

    This is exactly why I love to read what you write! You can tell a story with grace and love in a very special way….


  7. Lynn says:

    As a Mom, I am so sad that Diana did not live long enough to witness the fine young men her sons have grown to be. They honour their mother with the choices they have made, learning from her tragic story & seemingly finding balance between their public & private lives. 18 years, it is hard to believe!

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  8. Well written. She is the Jackie of England. Kate has big shoes to fill. May her life be more peaceful and happy.


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  11. Hens House says:

    We woke up to the horrid news, and just watched in despair as the news unravelled before us. Being here in England we were able to drive to London and experience the out pour of love for such a delicate flower. We laid our own flowers at the gates of Buckingham Palace and prayed that her two boys wouldn’t be too scared by the events of that day. Thankfully, they have grown up to be two young men that their mother would be proud of. I for one looked forward to the day that we see William & Kate take the throne. Xxx

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    • Thank you for sharing this. I can only imagine what it was like being there during that time. Even rereading it puts such a lump in my throat. She was only 36. She left those two sweet boys…the whole thing, even now, all these years later, is just so wrong. Again, thank you.


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