Happy With So Very Little

images-3 I ran into a girl I know who, when she asked what’s new and I said, not much…just on my way to the library to read said, “I always marvel Susannah, how you exist with so very little.”

Not knowing how to respond I simply smiled and said it was nice to see her, and it was, till her offhanded remark.

What constitutes as so very little?

That I’m content with a book beneath my arm and a few bucks in my pocket?  She has a much bigger life than I have, no question.  Married to a successful trial lawyer (who I hear is not all that nice to her) with two great homes and a trip to Paris a couple times a year, and though she’s set materially, her frown lines give her away.

Still, I ponder her assessment of me and wonder, which one of us really has so little.

For me, less is always more learning I don’t need a tremendous amount to be happy.  I attribute this to the 12 Step program I joined years ago that teaches you to live in the day.

Do you feel okay?  Are your needs met?  What grace found you within this 24 hours?

I’ve also learned to take pause before taking a swing, whether it’s at me or someone else, though at times, still slip, the imperfect creature that I am.

As this girl fluttered her wings in her sleek black pant suit and proper Italian pumps, me in my ripped Levis, Keds and hoodie, there was no envy in my heart.

Maybe she envies me for all I know.

But once settling into my book cloaked in the quiet, I didn’t think about her anymore, Hemingway having my full attention.

Does that sound like so very little to you?     To_Have__Have_Not_1st_in_dj_2

SB

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About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Amazon.com. Thanks.
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28 Responses to Happy With So Very Little

  1. joan blake says:

    Sounds perfect! To not have your life cluttered with useless things you are so much more open to the small and beautiful things around you everyday.

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  2. skinnyuz2b says:

    Contentment is a state of mind, dependent on your view of life. It sounds as if the girl you know is trying to find contentment in her life by finding fault with yours. Not exactly an uncommon trait in way too many people.
    As the old saying goes, beauty is as beauty does. I’ve often noticed that truly nice people appear more attractive than they physically are, and vice versa.
    Don’t let that little chickie ruffle your feathers, Susannah.

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    • I’ve said this before, but people say things to me I would never say to anyone, even someone I didn’t like. Now I know how animals feel when hunted. She ruffled my feathers, but not for very long. I’ve been with someone rich and abusive, actually wrote about it…stay tuned…and believe me, it’s not worth the perks that suddenly mean nothing. I know her husband. Pardon the expression, but he’s a real DICK. I’d kill him in his sleep.
      Thanks always for weighing in. Means a great deal.

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  3. Beverly Giangiacomo says:

    You have found internal peace…indeed a very special place to be! I am sure your friend is seeking that same contentment with self and life through her meanderings around the flashy world she is a part of. I have never thought of your life as having so “little”. You are smart and a delight to get to know via your writings. Besides when you go to the Carlyle you are right up there with the best of them!

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    • Yeah, except I can’t really afford it but go anyway. Why? Life’s short and at this stage of the game, I deserve a glass of good wine overpriced or otherwise.
      I don’t always have such inner peace…glimpses. But I’ll take it because that is the primary goal. Doesn’t matter how many designer shoes loll in the closet. If your heart’s in knots all the time, life becomes hell.
      You are very kind to say such nice things that soothe and strengthen 🙂

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  4. micklively says:

    Like the song says “Just direct your feet…..”
    Contentment is worth more than Fort Knox. You are blessed.

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  5. You described a perfect day for me. A trip to the library or bookstore is heavenly.
    What is enough? Seems a bit self-satisfying to belittle someone else. Who can judge what is enough for someone else.
    Yet, how blessed you are to be able to see through her.
    I enjoyed the way you expressed this disconcerting incident. 😎

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    • I’m always questioning my choices in life. As I age layer upon layer of needs come off I’m grateful to say. I was with a rich man for a while who gave me everything including an ulcer because he was so mean at times. I wrote about it…will post it tomorrow. That woman inspired it so that was the upside of the incident. As essay was born. Thanks for writing.

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  6. When I read it, I took it as a compliment to you. Simplicity. Peace. That’s what you ooze. Since I wasn’t there and it’s probably more materialistic in that part of the world, perhaps it wasn’t a compliment. It’s all in the tone of the voice. If that’s true, shame on her and she deserves what she gets.

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  7. After reading your first paragraph, Susannah, I found myself thinking that she was wistfully envious of you and how you don’t require all the trappings of wealth in order to be satisfied with life. That, and maybe she had regrets that she was one of those people who wanted, or craved material possessions, and was not as happy as you. Then again, after reading further and realizing she had many of the things many of us wouldn’t mind having ourselves, I thought maybe she might have been making a snide remark at your expense. Still, who knows, she might have been genuinely envious of a simpler lifestyle, especially in light of how her and her husband have problems. Maybe she’d would be willing to give it all up, if it meant she could be happy, which apparently she isn’t at present.

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  8. My mom would say “take it as a compliment.” You obviously wear your contentment well, you know like a classic blazer. Quakers pride themselves on living a simple life, even those who are very wealthy…. you’ll never know it. Their money goes to the greater good like education not glitz. I have learned a lot over the years from this squad of simple life livers.

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