Bearing Rejection

I often think of Stephen King, one of the most prolific, successful writers of our time, who has a piece of wood with a giant nail hammered into it holding all of his rejection notices.

Hemingway, before publishing The Sun Also Rises originally titled, Fiesta, couldn’t get any of his short stories sold.  After the success of his first book, couldn’t sell them fast enough.

I try allowing both these tales to comfort when something I’ve bravely submitted gets trashed.  Nowadays, you rarely even get a rejection letter.  Now it’s creepy silence as if to say, you’re not even worth the time to politely say…no, it’s not what we’re looking for.

I too have a stack of letters from Vanity Fair, Elle, Ladies Home Journal, The Sunday Times, even The New Yorker saying, thanks, but no thanks.  To think how bold I was sending my essays out as if I were Hemingway or a Stephen King stuns me.

I’ve grown gun-shy afraid to swim out too far into the deep waters of publishing.  Part of me can’t take the rudeness more than rejection.

A good friend introduced me to someone doing movie and book reviews who was very polite as long as the three of us were cced.  The moment I wrote without involving my friend, there was no response.  I was trying to get my review on the book, The Comedians, seen not even for money, the biggest kick in the teeth.

It occurred to me, my blog could be a turnoff.  The first thing they want are credits, but know athingirl.com isn’t for everyone, plus there’s no point in concealing it since, if you Google me everything short of my mother comes up, the internet knowing all.

That said…should I bag the blog to be more enticing with fewer essays?  My immediate response, loving it as much as I do is, hell no.

The same friend who tried helping me suggested only writing themes that do well.  I have an issue with that too.  For me, one of the beauties of blogging is the freedom to pen whatever comes to mind, like an empty easel where your art can arrive organically, without edit, a grace in itself.

I remind myself, after putting my ego to bed, what a blessing having something you love caulking up all those holes in the past you expected others to fill.  I’d rather write and rewrite, more than sitting in a bar looking to be admired.  With the exception of reading, nothing is as satisfying.  Besides all that, the relief is enormous having your needs met through your art alone.

Imagine independence doing the twist.

SB

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About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Amazon.com. Thanks.
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35 Responses to Bearing Rejection

  1. Lusekelo Munene says:

    While I was watching Scorpion the other day, Mr Elliot said to Walked O’Brien, “the reason I am successful is because on the heels of defeat, I start all over again. Failure is part of the process.” Rejection is part of the process to success as you have clearly indicated Susan just like Stephen King or Hemingway or Jane Austen (one of my favourites). I’ve always admired your vitality and willingness to stand up for what you believe in. I continue to admire that you won’t put your blog down to improve your chances of publishing. Good luck Susan:) and don’t stop trying.

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  2. Lusekelo Munene says:

    I almost forgot, Paulo Coelho

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  3. micklively says:

    It’s a cruel yet predictable world. Publishers, advertisers, book shops, printers, critics, agents, &c are only interested in making money. They may wax lyrical about artistic merit but, in reality, it’s just part of the sales pitch. They have huge arsenals, highly tuned over many decades, dedicated to maximising profit. Among these are manipulating audiences, reducing risk, driving down payments to authors.
    You want to write from the heart and that’s laudable. If your output is not deemed marketable by those holding all the cards, they will look elsewhere. There will ever be a veritable plethora of willing aspirants.
    Please, don’t give up.

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  4. gmg says:

    So glad that you will continue your blog. I don’t always respond, but I read your blog every day and look forward to your insights and sharing. Fuck them:)
    gmg

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  5. Elle Knowles says:

    You are very brave to put yourself out there even though this is now a world of self publishing. Your books, my book, everyone who self publishes, writes a blog and uses social media to advertise is putting themselves on the line. You and I both know it’s not as easy as it looks. You have to take a deep breath each time before you hit ‘publish’. And…it’s very hard to keep your chin up when rejected. Just remember how many readers and commenters and cyber friends are behind you 100%! I, for one, look for athingirl first in my reader everyday. ~Elle

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  6. I admire your success! Your books are fun as I am sure your submitted articles are too. I get flummoxed by submittals. Most places want things that haven’t been published yet you hear nothing. Do they like it? Is it in a holding pen? Burned at the stake? I hold back from putting some of my favorite pieces on my blog or even submitting them elsewhere because that have been submitted to a big black hole! I admire people who are not affected by rejection. I never had that gene. The blogging world is a great place with lots of encouragement. Unfortunately there isn’t any financial part.

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    • You’re getting Teflon cream too. I love your cat pieces. Hazel, Mollie, Morgan and the late Jake are like people I know, with tails. Imagery isn’t as easy at it looks. They have potent personalities just like the rest of us. That’s great writing when you can do that.
      As far as submitting, I’ll keep at it but need to always prepare myself for that smack, silent or otherwise.

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  7. There was a time where I submitted and waited for a rejection as it showed me someone had read something I wrote. Time passed and I didn’t write much until starting this blog and I agree with you, it is freeing to just write without a topic. I find that some of the things I find to write about and think they are low in the scale of interest are some of the most read posts….. it’s a confusing thing this writing business. I have friended two bloggers who are now starting their own publishing firms… I cannot wrap my mind around that, but I wish them great success… I don’t know if I will ever publish again, it would be fun, but, I don’t think people are that interested in what I say… All this to say, excellent read today, thanks for being you!

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    • Don’t say you’ll never publish again. You write beautifully plus you’re passionate about it. We need to just brush ourselves off and start all over again…like the song says. 🙂

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      • I just now saw this comment and I apologize for such a delay in seeing it. It was hidden under my unread comments. Hope you are well. Still have a toddler and three dogs staying with us, so life is more than hectic… it is total bedlam most days. Will hopefully get to slow down in a few weeks and begin to read and write more consistently. ❤ I think of you daily and you are never far from my thoughts and prayers.

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      • No apology required. Hope all is well in DAFs world. Thinking of you:)

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  8. nikkispeaks says:

    I haven’t been following your blog for long, but I admire you for putting yourself out there.

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  9. I don’t think a blog, especially yours, is a liability to publishing. On my blog, the posts that always do the best are the ones I wrote about Korean culture. It’s tempting to just write that kind of thing, but I don’t write for the views, I write what I love to write, as do you. In today’s crowded writing market, I don’t think you should aim for the masses; aim for that special place that only you can fill.
    I admire for having that many rejection letters. I don’t have that many, only because I haven’t put myself out there that much. It’s never easy though. Let’s keep swinging for the fences, though. 🙂
    -your friend.

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    • Your flash fiction, as I’ve heard it called, always does well. Not an easy style. I rewrite trying to be brief and airy and look like empty farm land if you will. Then when rejected blame it on taking too much out. I just want to write, but yearn to make a living at it. Makes me think of Melville no one knew till he spent his life working I believe as some type of toll collector. He wrote Moby Dick, now on every school reading list across the world. Sigh.

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      • The plight of the amateur writer is almost a universal of every age. It’s almost a paradox, in order to get good enough to support yourself on it, you need to spend all your time writing, but in order to do that, you need a job to support yourself. We do what we can, right? Keep writing and never give up. 🙂

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      • I love the term paradox since it applies to so many things. I truly love to write. It’s what keeps me afloat, no question. Maybe the love of it will have to be enough. I don’t know, but your encouragement means the world.

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  10. Considering the huge amount of shit they do let pass through I need to wonder who is in charge and what is the motive. Oh wait money is the motive. Seriously, one of the Kardashians has yet another book out. What profound words does this 20 something have to offer the world? ZERO. Who the fuck is buying it?
    You keep putting your work out there and I’ll keep hoping someone with sense moves it along.

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  11. Wow! Susannah, I do so love what you wrote here. Those publishers should be so lucky. ;o)

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