Know Who They Are

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time…Maya Angelou

When I saw this quote in a church window, it stopped me in my tracks.

I’ve been so tormented by the actions of others, it feels as if I’ll fall right off the edge.

You never know who the messenger is, so when my friend Chris came to see my new place he became the channel.

I suffer from chronic disappointment because of behavior having little control over.  Getting mad at those in your life who toss you curves, is like getting mad at rain.  What’s the point?  It’s such a no-brainer, you ask yourself, why can’t you get it, once and for all?

He sat on one of my vintage wicker chairs with the braiding coming loose and said, “You knew that A was unwell…on so much medication…and after abandoning you twice before, how can you be so shocked?…

And J, as he sat at lunch maligning his long-term girlfriend, didn’t you realize, he’d do the same to you?  As far as the sofa twins go, they’ve disappointed you how many times before?”

I sat there as if water was poured on my head.

More coffee?

As stupid and primitive as it sounds, I just want to be loved.  When those random schooners sailing through my life smash into their docks so unexpectedly, I’m truly stunned.  I’m not sure I want to believe those out of the gate will be such a disappointment.  Maybe the dream of truth and grace is worth the sad outcome.  I want to believe the best of people, glean the good, rid my heart of the rest.  But the late, great Maya did have a point.

When those you meet spread their wings to show their true colors, try not to close your eyes.




About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Thanks.
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22 Responses to Know Who They Are

  1. micklively says:

    We ALL want to be loved. Some seek love in strange ways, unlikely to bear fruit. When I am confronted with selfish, spiteful or callous acts, I lean on analysis. I find such people are often motivated by fear, embarrassment, peer-pressure. They cavort down blind alleys, pursued by their own weaknesses. Then I think they maybe deserve my pity, instead of my anger. And, as if by magic, somehow the problem seems to have dissolved.

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  2. skinnyuz2b says:

    That is such a wonderful quote. Love it! It is such common sense, yet we close our eyes so often. We shouldn’t waste our precious moments on those that have no real interest in us.

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  3. Elle Knowles says:

    Most of us go back for seconds even though we’ve been burned. It’s that feeling of not wanting any enemies. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you – what was pounded into our heads when we were young. Some never learned that and you can’t blame yourself, though it does hurt. ~Elle

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  4. There’s another piece here too. Sometimes people can’t live up to expectations. Yes they promised but their promises don’t mean the same as your promises. It helps to see people clearly and accept them for who that are. Sometimes you only get fleeting minutes of pleasure but if that’s all you expect, you are not disappointed. We all get disappointed by friends. The pain of being let down by someone you let in your heart, hurts. I hope you can sort it out without allowing the scar tissue to claim you.

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  5. Lynn says:

    Like you Susannah, I think I am open to welcoming people into my life. I am blessed to have a wonderful network of support from family & friends but there have been many times I have been hurt by those I love. I have a hard time letting go of someone I care about, often to my detriment as I just keep going back for more, feeling somehow I must have done something to put them off. I am often left just feeling baffled!

    I do agree with Kate’s comment in regards to expectation. I do think, because we give so much of ourselves, it is difficult for people to live up to the same expectation. I have tried to be a little more aware of that in the past years which has helped to some degree.

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    • In my twilight years I do try to accept people as they come but get hurt just the same. I’ve lost so many friends since my hearing loss so I’m anxious I suppose to make new ones, but that’s where the expectations come in. Need to be more vigilant. Nice hearing from you.


  6. gmg says:

    The best prediction of future behavior is past behavior. It’s the truth…..xoxo

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  7. This is my families favorite quote. So much so my sister had it matted and framed. even though I know it’s true, I fall off the wagon and let someone in who should have probably been left at the curb….lessons I guess need to be learned more than once.
    Isn’t this quote the PERFECT one to be on a picture of DT? I feel a FaceBook post coming on…hehehe

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