l love this expression since, though cleverly cryptic, says it all. It’s when you have a need, secret or confidence you trust to the wrong person, coming away more bitch-slapped than comforted.
I’ve been in an inexplicable swoon unable to find its source. Could have been the holiday since Easter was once, my most favorite, till hanging up my rosary for good.
It was a season of cleansing, reflecting and rebirth I looked forward to each year.
Now there’s a hole where that spiritual spring cleaning used to be.
I went so far as to stand in the back of my former church feeling foreign, wishing for something to stir in me, but instead flat-lined, my heart empty.
So off I went in the direction of that hardware store searching for solace and peace. Instead, getting neither…a door slammed…a few words of, yeah, so…in essence, don’t bother me.
It’s someone I know who’s limited, yet still hoped for a deeper soul. That’s my part in it. When people show you who they are, believe them, said Maya Angelou.
I’ve actually been to the hardware store a lot lately. I had asked a man I trusted, for help, who belittled me so badly, it left me in a fetal position.
I got screwed in what I thought was the clementine aisle, and did I cry, until someone else came, like a Prince on his steed, helping me up, no questions asked.
See, I should have gone to his store to begin with, where the fruit was fresh on the bough.
I think the trick may be to pause before going shopping, so you don’t find yourself in the checkout aisle in tears.
We shall practice this.
SB
You’d think all humans would show basic human kindness and empathy. Alas, it is not so. But we find succour in the most unlikely places, so there is still hope.
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Succor is a great word…sadly, so is,sucker, which is what you feel like walking from that hardware store.
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You’re just better than they are. That’s not a sucker; that’s a paragon.
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Another great word…a person or thing regarded as a perfect example of a particular quality…sigh
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Not everyone is great at uplifting us in our time of need. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. But if belittling is the strength it’s time to boycott that store!
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Agreed. Taking off blinders Skinny is a honed skill…sigh
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Sometimes people have so much of their own sh$t going on that they can’t help anyone else. It is sad as sometimes it only takes a hug. I have found that holidays, whatever they are, don’t seem to be a good time to look for comfort.
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That’s a good point. Hugs really do make a difference, as rare as they’re becoming. Love your new photo.
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A hug is all it takes.
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It’s true. Like a quick transfusion direct to the heart 🙂
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Sometimes a person has been hurt so deeply they are so damaged they are incapable of feeling anything other than their own pain and have nothing positive to give to another. They may hurt us and perhaps should be left to themselves but we need to remember mercy is a gift we receive and can pass on. Still it is wise to remember what kind of customer service is given at that hardware store and beware.
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A nice thing you wrote. Mercy is a strange emotion and I dole it out more that i can say, but one gets to the point they just don’t care anymore. I’m tired of the coldness across the board. I truly experience too much of it in every area of my life. It’s no wonder I spend most of my time alone.v Appreciate what you wrote.
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It’s true, people in general have become moe distant or cold. It could be that they get the same uncaring response from people in their life, so they just continue the pattern. It’s the old “if you can’t beat them join them” attitude. The orange anger monger on TV 24/7 doesn’t help.
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I don’t know the origins, just the crummy feelings it brings up. You feel as if you’re worth ten cents a pound.
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I don’t think I’ve heard that expression before but it’s an apt one, even if the meaning isn’t pleasant. I hope you can encounter more fruit stores than hardware stores.
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It’s a 12 Step slogan.
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