Let’s do one another a favor passing on the impulse.

Just now, for instance, I opened a box of chocolates whose presenter will remain nameless,  that looked as if they came by way of Gaza, and that’s putting it politely.

The box itself was crushed on both ends and rather than, Fine Swiss Chocolates, said… ine iss colates, which made me wonder if it was some type of French bubble bath or inflatable undies you blew up.

They came in a second box with a scarf perfect for Barbie who they may have been shopping for.

And no, we can’t blame it on the mail since it was delivered in person. I, adhering to the old Connecticut custom of opening your gifts Christmas morning didn’t, while the party was in residence.

Was it my imagination, or were they relieved?

Could have been all that wine they drank.  See, I’m not cheap…I didn’t break open foreign bottles that were sent by impersonal people purchased by the silo.

And the gloves I gave came with a gift receipt.

The other thing that looked recycled was a floral arrangement seeing fresher days. They too were dropped off as if they were thrown from the cab the donor rode in.

Always handy to have a doorman to interrogate, poor Felix having to retrieve them, the giver not even bothering getting out of the taxi.

Were we just a little inconvenienced?

This is what I suggest to…


Let go of those, shoulds, I musts…oh shits, what about hers.

The spirit of Christmas isn’t about obligation.

And while I’m at it, trade in those fucking expectations, and I’m speaking to all you doormen circling like sharks in a pool.

It’s a time of grace, given the opportunity to let those you care about know, how much they mean to you…


This gun to your head giving is not the way to go, and neither is…what a piece of crap, I think I’ll give it to Susannah.

Those chocolates went down the garbage chute right after the calla lilies were put to rest.

I know it’s the thought that counts, but sometimes it arrives in drag, a great way to describe REGIFTNG…

it being a total one.




About Susannah Bianchi

I'm just a girl who likes to write slightly on slant. I've had a career in fashion, dabbled in film and to be honest, I don't like talking about myself. Now my posts are another matter so I will let them speak for themselves. My eBooks, A New York Diary, Model Behavior: Friends For Life and Notes From A Working Cat can be found on Thanks.
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25 Responses to Regifting

  1. Oh my! I have worked hard to discourage gift giving preferring to donate to an animal rescue (I know that’s my shtick and maybe not theirs…oh well). This is exactly why. I have received pot pourri burners that could start a global fire, scarves that wouldn’t look good on a gorilla, perfume from the drugstore (yes that’s Evening in Paris special). If I receive something truly lovely that I know I won’t wear, I may regift it but only if I know someone that will cherish it otherwise it’s the revolving fruitcake. All of this contributes to my “oh shit” attitude about Christmas. I have been holding fast with my no gifts rule. I received one on Friday and I didn’t reciprocate. The giver knew I wouldn’t because I have told her for the past 5 years but that didn’t stop the guilt I felt. I much prefer to give the homeless person some money for lunch and rescue three homeless critters.

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    • Loved this rant…I like giving gifts if I truly want to give them. I’m not good at drummed up, arbitrary giving. I resent it actually.

      I like sending money to an animal shelter or some organization, which is why I always get my Xmas cards from one. There’s a grace in it…and yes, the homeless guy on the corner, or the man in the wheelchair..etc…opens one’s heart more than a token present you really don’t want to give. Bah humbug…so be it.

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  2. Loretta says:

    A good rant for sure… but don’t get me started on gift giving! I make it quite clear that we do not exchange gifts…..most of us have everything we want, if we don’t need it, it just gathers dust in the corner. My idea of gifting is making up baked goods, knitting some dishcloths, hosting an Open House, or something hand-made that you wouldn’t find at regular stores. I figure, if I want to buy myself something, I’d go out and buy it myself, I don’t need a surprise gift from my husband or kids that I’d never use. We all have so much, yet we desire more. The day after Christmas, people are shopping for the following season. There’s so many unfortunate people in this world, giving to a good cause would make me feel like I’ve contributed. If I had my way, I’d be Scrooge’s best friend 🙂

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    • I’m with you, though I don’t bake or knit, but totally agree with contributing practically from the heart. The season comes with too much pressure. It’s the part I can’t abide.

      Will be glad when it all passes.


  3. Coyote from Orion says:

    Well said


  4. Reblogged this on Kindredspirit23's Blog and commented:
    Could not agree more. I make sure that I tell people when I create my Amazon list that all books and DVDS can be in “Very Good” shape, not new. I just hate highlighting and underlining. Leave that out an we are fine.

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  5. Hal & Kate says:

    Very amusing !

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  6. Coyote from Orion says:

    Watching Fawlty Towers

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  7. We stopped giving gifts in my family too. We put our money together and make a nice donation to a facility where my brother-in-law volunteers twice a week and actually gets to see the benefits of the donation.
    Obligatory gifts make me sick…literally! My favorite is the dollar store bath gel that also removes skin .. STOP.
    Great Rant Indeed!

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    • I’m glad I’m not alone feeling this way since I’ve just about had it with Christmas. Soon we’ll be jumping over all the dead trees thrown on the curb, more casualties of tis the season.

      Like that you make a donation like that. 🙂


  8. skinnyuz2b says:

    Susannah, I cut down this year with my four children. I didn’t give unwanted surprises, instead opting for an array of ideas from them. And I used to spend half a day sending 50+ Christmas cards to relatives and friends for Pookie and me. We simplified everything this year. Next year we want to get back to bringing Christmas gifts and dinner to elderly shut-ins. We stopped doing it the second year after we had four children. We also used to adopt a small family. Time to get back to what really counts.
    As far as regifts, I once got a sweater complete with matted balls and lingering perfume!

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  9. I couldn’t agree more!! I tell everyone I don’t need or want anything and then they arrive with gifts that involved zero thought and clearly are not my taste. Why do it?
    Wishing you a blessed 2017 Susannah!! 🙂

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  10. micklively says:

    I agree too, for what that’s worth. Though I’m very fond of the pile of second-hand books that Maeve finds for me. Why pay full price?

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  11. Oh no! you deserve fresh flowers picked with care and gifts that are lovingly thought of and wrapped with care.

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